Last week I finished How Children Succeed, and now I am on to Brain Rules for Baby (or Babies - can't remember right now). I love John Medina, the author of the Brain Rules books! I was lucky enough to see him speak and it was amazing. If you ever have the opportunity to see him, I highly recommend it!
Anyway, I am reading Brain Rules for Baby mostly to understand what my own children's brains are doing right now. The first chapter was on pregnancy and I skimmed it, trying to ignore all of the things I could have done better. The next chapter was on relationships, as in the relationship between husband and wife.
It turns out that your relationship with your spouse is very, very, very, very important to the brain health of your child in his first months and years. It is also true that a marriage has incredible strain put on it after having a child.
I did know both of these things before in a hypothetical kind of way, but Medina has a way of showing the science behind it.
Anyway, this weekend I have been really irritated with my husband. He seemed content to sit around and watch football all weekend and then got cranky at me for being on the computer all of the time. (I would like to say here that I am always on the computer because I am trying to create for TpT so we can have a little extra income since I am only working part-time.)
I read a little of the relationship chapter and realized that I needed to make up with him fast for our darling little children's brains.
I also learned that our major source of arguments is disturbingly common - an unequal distribution of labor. It drives me crazy that, even though I only work part-time, I am ridiculously busy from 7am to 8pm and he comes home from work "so tired" at 6pm that he has to collapse in front of the tv for a little bit before he can sit down to eat the dinner that magically appears at the table every night. (Can you tell I am still a little riled about this?!)
My husband thinks that he does almost the same amount of work as I do, but he has no idea. Okay - I guess I am a little to upset right now, but the point the book made was that this unequal distribution of labor occurs all over the country and it is one of the biggest stresses on a marriage. There are lots of studies and facts to back this up and if I wasn't exhausted I would go through them point by point now.
Instead, I am going to say goodnight and hand the book over to my husband with a few of the sections highlighted for easy reading :).